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Thursday, March 25, 2010

Skinny People

I have a hard time around skinny people. Skinny people mess with my head just by being skinny. I look at them and wonder what they eat, how much they eat, if they work out, if they have always been skinny, if it's in their genes, if they know they are skinny. Around skinny people, I feel like this:

This is a somewhat forgiving picture. I had another one in mind that I wanted to share but gave up looking for it after 45 minutes (my "fat" period was pre-digital). I didn't look like that when I started running, but remembering how I felt when I did look like that is one of the reasons I run.

My first year of college, I gained that dreaded freshman 15 and then some. I spent the next few years hating the way I looked but doing nothing about it. I finally joined a gym but never ended up going because I felt like everyone was looking at me and I didn't really know what I was doing. I got to the point where I really wanted to do something about the way I looked and felt though. About that same time, I had a roommate that knew how to eat well. She also introduced me to Karen Voight workout videos. By that time, I was about 25 pounds (probably a few more even) heavier than I am today. Halfway through my last year at college, I started changing my eating habits (no more cooking and eating a pan of brownies at 11 pm; no more Taco Bell runs at 2 am; more water, more fruits and veggies) and started shutting myself in our condo basement with Karen Voight. By the time I graduated, I had lost over 15 pounds.

It wasn't easy. I remember going to the movies and wanting to cry because my knees were so stiff and sore (from working out) when I stood up. But I also remember the first time I noticed the definition in my legs and when I could get back into some bright orange "Daisy Duke" shorts (yes I'm old) from high school. Over the next year, I lost another 10 pounds. When I got married, I weighed a few pounds less than I weigh today.

After losing the weight, I became certified to teach aerobics and yoga. I usually taught 3-4 classes each week and hit the bike or elliptical trainer before or after a couple of my classes. When we moved to New Jersey for my husband's schooling, I stopped teaching but spent several hours a week with Karen Voight or in our apartment's gym.

I became pregnant in 2005 and continued to work out pretty regularly through my pregnancy. I had my first daughter in March 2006. After about six weeks, I started doing workout videos at home. Then in June 2006, my cousin asked me to do a 5K with her. From the moment we signed up, we planned to walk since I would be pushing my baby in the stroller and running wasn't my thing. As we walked that 5K, I watched all the people running, especially the ones pushing their little ones in strollers.

As we crossed the finish line (at 45:58), I realized I wanted to try running that race again the next year. I'm still not sure where that came from since I had ALWAYS hated running. In fact those 1-mile tests they used to make you do in P.E. were my most dreaded days. But I still decided to give running a try.

I started slow and there was a lot of walking at the beginning. One of the things that kept me going was that it was something I could do WITH my little girl. Over the next few months, I bought a jogger and a treadmill.

I ran the same 5K the following June, only this time I crossed the finish at 31:20. I think that might be the day I became a runner although it would take a few years before I started to call myself one.

Gaining weight and then losing it (the right way) taught me things that I couldn't have learned any other way. There are still things I would change about my body. I am holding out hope that I will eventually run my way to thinner thighs. And my stomach has this weird thing going on since having my babies; I can't decide if it's cellulite or loose skin or what (but it's what keeps me from wearing a bikini). Even with the things I would change, I have learned to love my body.

And having my girls helped me love and appreciate my body even more. Not just the amazing thing that is pregnancy, but looking at those two little people and hoping they have positive body images and grow up loving who they are, inside and out. I can't hope for that if I don't set the first example. What they take out into the world starts at home.


When we were looking at pictures after we got home from Hawaii, I told my husband it was the first time I have ever looked at pictures of myself in a bathing suit and not hated what I saw. Admittedly running has helped tone some areas, but I don't look that different than I did in a bathing suit before I had kids or even pre-weight gain or post-weight loss. The difference isn't how I look. It's how I look at myself.

20 comments:

  1. Your last sentence is awesome! Congrats on reshaping how you think about yourself!!!! You look awesome btw!

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  2. I think you look awesome. What an examply you are setting for your girls. And I agree with KK...the last sentence says it all.

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  3. I love this really honest and insightful post. You really sound like you have a healthy attitude about eating and weight! Thanks for sharing.

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  4. What an awesome post!!! I relate to it in so many ways!! I also loved to do Karen Voight :)

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  5. And you look fabulous! Keep that healthy lifestyle and attitude and pass it off to your girls!

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  6. I love this post! Thanks for sharing.

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  7. I have to admit, my mind races when I am around a "naturally skinny" person. I wonder when they eat and what they eat. Oh and I absolutely LOVE to see them actually eat just to prove to me that they do in fact consume the same food I do.
    You look gorgeous!! Girl you should be proud to strut your stuff, you have worked hard!
    Your story is inspiring! Your girls are blessed that their mommy is teaching them to have a healthy lifestyle.

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  8. I love this! Your last sentence is SO right.

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  9. I think we have similar stories...I am going to post mine soon... neither of us were really overweight..we just weren't skinny and had this idea of what we should be in our heads. I agree with you now I look at my body so differently because I appreciate it for so many things.

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  10. Thanks for sharing this story. You look amazing!

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  11. That was a beautiful story...I loved it! thanks for sharing!

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  12. Love that last sentence! Great post!!!

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  13. I absolutely love your post today. Hits the nail right on the head!

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  14. I loved this post. Thanks for sharing.

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  15. Great post! You are right on with the last sentence! Awesomeness!

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  16. That's it, I am outlawing skinny people. Especially those waif-like models who are more turn-off than turn-on.

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  17. Great post! I feel the same way about skinny people...but just think, to some people we are the "skinny people"
    I love the picture of you and your girls...you look amazing!

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  18. That last sentence, WOW so true. You look great BTW! :)

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  19. First off, you look fantastic! Secondly, my pet peeve in life are those teeny tiny girls that everyone admires who never work out. I am out there busting my hump day after day and I'll never look like them. But I'd bet my arteries are prettier!

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  20. "The difference isn't how I look. It's how I look at myself." And that's why you're a writer! Well said!

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